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Can you talk the talk? Most guys can drop a decent pick-up line to get a date, but when it comes down to dinner-time conversation, many guys fall short. If you get dumped after the first date, there’s at least a 50% chance that the problem was conversation. Maybe you are a great catch and she’s the right match, but if you can’t sell yourself, you won’t close the deal. So how do you give good conversation?
*First, keep in mind that a successful conversation, much like sexual relations, is a two-way street. You should place just as much focus on your partner as you do on yourself. If you find yourself talking for a stretch or her eyes wondering about the room, let her take the stage.
*Second, this is an interview. She wants to know what’s on your resume – education, job history, aspirations, special skills and interests, etc. On the same token, you gots to be asking her questions as well. You can’t just look her up and down and say you’re hired (e.g. Donald Trump and wife #3). She wants to know that you are interested in her, not just her assets. Here are the four key questions you should ask to get started.
Where are you from? (OR Did you grow up here?)
Where did you go to school? (OR What are you studying?)
What do you do for work?
What do you do for fun? (OR What do you do with your free time?)
*Follow-up. Once you get through these questions, you’ll run out of conversation pretty fast unless you ask follow-up questions. You ask her where she grew up. She says: Houston, Texas. You say:
Where in Houston? (If you know the area)
How big is the city? What’s it like? (If you haven’t
Did you like growing up there?
Just how damn humid is it?
I hear they have some damn good Mexican food. Is that right?
If you keep asking questions, you’ll find a point in common. That’s the goal! This is where that magical connection happens for women.
"You gots"? I don't gots to be doing nothing.
Shit bitch, fuck off until you learn how to speak.
Posted by: J Pierpont Flathead at December 20, 2005 09:53 PM"*Second, this is an interview. She wants to know what’s on your resume – education, job history, aspirations, special skills and interests, etc. On the same token, you gots to be asking her questions as well. You can’t just look her up and down and say you’re hired (e.g. Donald Trump and wife #3). She wants to know that you are interested in her, not just her assets. Here are the four key questions you should ask to get started.
Where are you from? (OR Did you grow up here?)
Where did you go to school? (OR What are you studying?)
What do you do for work?
What do you do for fun? (OR What do you do with your free time?)"
Actually, I don't think this is true at all. Maybe things here in NYC are different but most of the singles I've coached and worked with prefer NOT to be asked these questions. At least not so directly. If the person you're with is comfortable with you, they'll most likely offer this information. Steer clear of the pedigree questions and focus on questions that provide insight into what makes the person tick or makes them happy. The "interview" style of communicating can make many peoplE very uneasy because these sorts of questions might give the impression that they are looking for pedigree/financial security rather than a mate.
It's not realy what you say, it's how you say it. Ask too many questions and your date will get uneasy. What's important is that you find someone that you're comfortable with, attracted to and that you enjoy. Where they went to school, where they work etc has no bearing on what sort of partner they'd make. If anything AVOID asking those questions. It makes you sound like a snob or a gold digger.
Posted by: mOXIE at December 26, 2005 11:33 AMum yeah J Pierpont Flathead apparently a little grammar mistake is far worse than say... Calling a random woman you dont know a bitch. If anyone needs to learn how to speak it is you. You need to learn how to speak to a woman.
Posted by: George at January 12, 2006 05:49 PM
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