Q: Dear Score Her Squad,

Hi I'm an 18 yr old high school senior. This is my situation: For a while, I’ve been sitting in the school cafeteria alone and about 2 Thursdays ago, this one girl comes over and sits with me. The first thing she says is "Wow! You have some pretty eyes!” Then, she asked me what was my name, did I have a girlfriend, etc… I told her everything and when we got finished we exchanged goodbyes and said we would see each other tomorrow.

The next day, we seen each other walking in the hallway and talked some more, after that, I gave her my phone number and I asked for hers, but she said that she wasn't allowed to get phone calls from guys and I asked if she was allowed to call me and she said yes, but she still has not called me to this day. Later that day in lunch, she invited me to her table and we got into this conversation about what was she allowed to do and what she couldn't do and unfortunately, not being allowed to have boyfriends was one of the things she named. I was really disappointed and saddened after hearing that. Also, ever since I sat at her table, she hardly said anything to me. I always had to initiate the conversation to get her to talk. I really don' t know what to do at this point. Is it worth it for me to wait on her until she can have boyfriends or should I move on since I‘m graduating this year and she won't until 2008? - ST

A: Dear ST,

Even though this question comes from a younger reader, he asks a very mature question. When should you wait on a woman? The first step is to ask yourself, is she worth waiting for? In ST’s case, he hardly knows the girl and shouldn’t waste his precious teen years pining for a girl he just met.

Next, you should know there’s a HUGE difference between being unavailable and choosing to be unavailable. For example, a woman in a relationship or with heavy emotional baggage is unavailable. After a break up and therapy, she could again be available for the plucking. ST, your girl is a good example of someone who chooses to be unavailable. Everyone has some form of parental restrictions and rules surrounding dating in high school. If this girl chose to, like most high schoolers in love, she could spend every free moment between classes and during lunch with you. Instead, she is choosing not to be available and using her parents as the reason and excuse.

I know it’s difficult, but as long as this chick is friendly, treat her as just that – a friend. Until then, score some other girl ST. There are other chickens in the sea and you might meet one if you choose not to sit alone at lunch.

PS: Since she asked you if you’re single so quickly and didn’t reciprocate your advances, she may have been inquiring on behalf of a friend of hers.
PPS: Get good grades and go to college. There are plenty of females there.

-ScoreHer Squad