Dear ScoreHer Squad,

Q: I have a complaint and a question. Girls can't give handjobs. There's no way you can give me a better handjob than I can give myself. The other night I was fingering this girl and got her off. She thought she'd reciprocate the favor, but a bit afterwards she asked me if I'd like her to stop. I said "please". If you don't know what you're doing you're more likely to give me a blister than an orgasm. Some girls I know seem to think that simply pummeling my penis into submission will make me come but, as is the case with girls, there is an art to it. But given this misconception girls have gotten defensive if you question their ability to please a man. Ideally I'd like to break all girls of their handjob habits, but if that isn't going to happen, how can I bring things up and teach her a thing or two? I'd rather jerk myself off with sandpaper. – Dave

A: Dear Dave,

You are very right, women suck at handjobs. Which is why they should stick to sucking. Yet some women suck at sucking too. My point here is you shouldn’t just sit there and take the punishment until she finally says, should I stop? Do something about it. Of course women (like men) will be offended if you question their ability to please a mate. The secret is in the approach. Rather than telling her outright that you don’t like what she’s doing, focus on the positive instead. Say, “you are so good at blowing me” or “I really like it when you touch me like this.” Or, if you’re not the verbal type in the bedroom, simply redirect her, by pulling her hands off your blistered dick and kissing her. Think of it as though you are the teacher and she’s the naughty student that needs to learn a lesson. Also, remember that when it comes to the initial dating period, there will be many awkward, uncomfortable or painful moments as you learn each other’s ins and outs. The trick to enjoying this time is good communication.

-ScoreHer Squad