Having a good date? Want to hit a home run? If things are going well on your first date – good conversation, good times – you can make scoring the girl a certainty with the right body language. Despite popular belief, just telling her you’re having a good time is not enough. It’s called body language for a reason. It tells her you want her body. Without proper body language, she might get the impression that there is no chemistry. Or, she might start to wonder if you’re gay. Or, that you’re just not that into her. Here are a few ways to make sure she knows she’s sexy and wanted.

Look the Part
I’m sure the football game on screen and the waitress with her thong showing are very distracting, but making eye contact with your date (the majority of the time) is very telling. Women pay close attention to the amount of time your eyes are on her. Plus, we can easily tell when your roaming eyes have landed on the bosom of another babe. If you know you have trouble focusing in general, make sure you sit with your back to the crowd and all the action. Also, think about your priorities. You could stare at the hot waitress with the thong peeking out above her black mini-skirt. Or, you could focus on the girl you’re with and think about her thong draped over your bedroom lamp. Hm. Decisions. Decisions.

Lean Back
He may be large, but rapper Fat Joe is in charge of the women. His song “lean back” provides a prime tip for scoring the girl. Don’t lean in when having a conversation with a woman – it makes you look too keen and gives her the power to reject you. Instead, lean back. You know, make the mountain come to Mohammad. According to Tony Collis, Dating Doctor, "If you tend to sit back, totally relaxed in your own reality, and you speak at your own volume, which is slightly lower than she can hear, she will be tempted to lean into you.” ( Modern Dating Rules for Men)

Mark your Territory
If things are going well (meaning you’ve managed to sustain a good conversation for 30 plus minutes and she hasn’t run for the hill) it might be time to mark your territory. This means, it’s time to touch her in some shape or form. This does not mean you should duck under the table and start muff diving or that you should put your hands all over her! Rather, you want to use a subtle touch. Make it short and sweet so she wants more. You may not have touched a woman in three years, but this is not the time for heavy petting or groping. Here are some suggestions on where to lay your hands on her:

1. Hand – If you are walking between a restaurant and a bar or walking through a very crowded area, grab her hand for a minute.

2. Back – When you’re walking in or out of a door or through a small hallway, slow down and let her go through first, then gently put your hand on her lower back (back not butt) and guide her as she walks (no pushing).

3. Leg – If you are sitting next to her at a bar, movie theater or concert you have license to touch her leg. When you lean in to tell her something rest your cupped hand on top of her thigh (not the inside of the thigh) somewhere in the middle of her leg (not up by the crotch). Remove hand when you’re done and don’t do this every time you tell her something. If she looks at your hand and then at you with a “why the hell is your grimy hand on me look” remove it immediately so you don’t get bitch slapped.