I am very much a woman, just stumbled onto this site and wanted to fill you in on what "some" of us mean when we say "We need to talk". For the men in my life it means that I've been hoping they would understand something I've been trying to get across but the evidence shows they are not, thus we are having a breakdown of communication that I want to clear up so we can BOTH be happier and better informed about what YOU want and need, and what I want and need. If I don't get your attention off the computer screen, television screen, or out of the magazine and sit quietly so we can look each other in the eye I doubt that you will give my expression of information or feelings much attention at all and will probably forget what I said a nano-second after I finish. It is most certainly NOT the "death knoll" when it's coming from me. It's a "Heads up - you're not hearing what I'm trying to tell you" is all. That can be anything at all from "Hey, when you're in a big rush to get out the door don't kiss me HARDER to make up for the quickness because it hurts my lips and face, ok?" to something about how I'd love to stop having to pick up your moldy towels from the bathroom floor and I know we both hate hearing me nag about things like that. Thought some of you guys might be interested to know what a real chick means (I would say often) when she says "We need to talk". Peace~

Yeah normally she wants tell you something big or bad. Ill just play it down and be like dont worry.. it cause of this or that etc. Some girls like nice guys whilst (proberly the majority) like confident/cool guys who dont talk like pansy's. Depends on the girl just try and understand her and dont be a di*khead or a fairy.

Its definetly time to listen in this case, in fact, get ready to listen and listen some more. Then, when she pauses, repeat back to her what she said (not word for word or anything stupid like that) - just repeat it back so she knows you understand what she is trying to say. DON'T try to FIX her with your 'advice' either, just listen and let her know that you understand.

Shemale's right, "we need to talk" doesn't necessarily mean it's something big. It just means, "there is something I want you to understand. And I don't think you're getting it, so I want you to listen, so you know how I feel". Could be something big, could be something small.